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Are you a #twitterjunkie? Running to catch up to the latest dis or juicy gossip? Can’t wait to hear someone bashing someone else… talking about their clothes, their children, their crooked teeth? Can’t wait to hop on the pile and further run that person into the ground?
Remember the bullies on the playground when you were growing up? Doesn’t this behavior seem familiar?
Sneaky isn’t it. You probably didn’t even realizing you were doing it… participating in this ‘mob mentality.’ You were just going along because everybody else is doing it. And it’s not just twitter. It’s social media in general.
I think we have to ask ourselves what benefit do we get by participating in the suffering of someone else? What’s lacking that makes us revel in someone else’s pain and misfortune?
We have this amazing platform in social media. It can be used to start conversations, spread life affirming and needful news rapidly, connect with others around the world, but the majority of people don’t use it for that. They use it to feed their egos by putting others down, or to publicly complain about things that haven’t earned such status, or to start feuds with people.
I implore anyone reading this message to, of course continue to have fun on these genius platforms, but be conscious of your usage. Be conscious of the tendency to aggrandize yourself… 100 pictures of you is enough. We really get it, you’re great! So is your dog. Be conscious of your tendency to put someone else down in order to feel superior, be aware that the joke you told or the negative comment you made about someone will hurt them, just like it would hurt you. Be aware that, although you’re just typing on a computer, there are real people on the receiving end of it… with feelings and family members. Ask yourself how you would feel if such vitriol was directed at you.
We need to speak out against abuses and bigotry, sub-par products and services and corrupt politicians, but in a way that serves all of us. Let your comments garner more than just a chuckle. Be an uplifter. Be a change agent. Let what you add via social media help to move the conversation forward. And I encourage you to click the mob mentality link above. If you’re not familiar with the concept. It’s eye opening.
To Your Journey,
Tonya Lampley is a fiction author and Certified Life Coach. She is passionate about living life to the fullest and uses skills learned from her work as a coach as well as lessons from her own journey to write articles providing tips for successful living and to tell stories of hope and personal triumph. Her debut novel was titled A Taste of Love and was a National Indie Excellence Awards finalist. Her short story titled Birthday Surprise received honorable mention in the Writer’s Digest Short Story Contest. For more information about Tonya and her works please visit www.TonyaLampley.com.
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