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A friend was speaking with me and she so bravely shared that she was learning not to place so much stock in other people’s behavior because she always ends up disappointed.

I thought… What a huge revelation. The only thing we ever really have control over is our response to situations. Its human nature to view other people and their reactions through the lens of who “we are” and when they don’t behave the way we would behave, to feel hurt or disappointed. Dear one… we are all individuals and our experiences will always be vastly different. To hold another captive to a certain behavior is certain to bring disappointment. We are all much too varied for that. Instead of being hurt, appreciate the variety of another’s experience and bless their right to choose what is right for them. Don’t insist they behave a certain way to placate you… that’s slavery. If their choice is not in alignment with who you are, you have the right to decide what is best for you, but don’t hold yourself in the captivity of disappointment because they chose what was in alignment for them. Instead, exercise your right to do the same.

To your journey,



Tonya Lampley is a fiction author and Certified Life Coach. She is passionate about living life to the fullest and uses skills learned from her work as a coach as well as lessons from her own journey to write articles providing tips for successful living and to tell stories of hope and personal triumph. Her debut novel was titled A Taste of Love and was a National Indie Excellence Awards finalist. For more information about Tonya and her works please visit www.TonyaLampley.com.