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Everyday we have the opportunity to present our best self to the world, in all that we do. As I’ve become a woman of a certain age, I’ve become conscious of the message that I’m sending out on a daily basis. What impression am I making? Is it the impression I prefer to make? How can I be better? Something that came to mind was my appearance. I’ve become more intentional about everything else I do—the words I speak, acts of kindness. Why not be conscious of my image?

Success leaves clues and people who are going places are conscious of their sense of style. As Deion Sanders said, “If you look good you feel good. If you feel good you play good. If you play good they pay good.” And I couldn’t agree more. After two decades in corporate America, I’m well aware that the people who were always well groomed and impeccably dressed got promoted. All it takes is a little forethought and effort. Don’t miss out on this easy way to up your game. Here are some tips that can help you present the best of who you are to the world.

1— Make sure hair, skin and teeth are in the best shape possible.

Hair: Healthy hair = shiny hair. Find products that nourish hair from within to help your hair maintain its youthful shine. Light moisturizers and styling products that don’t weight hair down are best. Shea Moisture products work great for all hair types and they have a men’s line. Your hair should be trimmed and neat at all times. Ditto for brows and beards.

Skin: Healthy skin has a youthful glow. Exfoliate your face and body on a regular basis and moisturize. Shea Moisture and Andalou Naturals are two paraben-free product lines that can brighten and moisturize skin. Choose products based on your skin’s needs: dry, aging, acne, etc. Additionally, anything with rose oil or rosewater can keep your visage glowing!

Teeth: Find a low abrasion toothpaste that remineralizes and safely whitens. Toothpastes or whitening treatments that are too harsh can thin enamel. When enamel is healthy, teeth appear brighter. Some natural brands of toothpaste contain xylitol and calcium which have enamel strengthening properties. For gum issues, toothpastes and mouth rinses with xylitol, zinc, clove and other herbs are beneficial. Visit your local health food store or ask your dentist for suggestions.

2— Pair down your wardrobe so that it contains only clothes you love and look amazing in.

Every single piece you own should make you feel like you can conquer the world when you slip it on. Don’t waste time flipping through a cluttered closet. It frustrates you and adds to the time it takes you to get dressed. Donate any items you either don’t love, don’t wear or are ill-fitting to your local charity. Organizations like Goodwill or Dress for Success will bless others with those items. Remember, if you look good you feel good, and that confidence will be a powerful attractor for good things in your life.

3— Dress in congruence with your age and personality.

There’s nothing wrong with being sexy or trendy, if that’s uniquely your personality, but remember, people can easily spot an imposter by their wardrobe. When a person’s clothes are not a match to their energy, it’s obvious. Don’t show too much skin or cleavage or follow trends too tightly if that’s not uniquely your personality. You’ll look as if you’re trying too hard. The best dressed and stylish people look at ease in the clothes they wear. They choose outfits that enhance their personality, not detract.

4— Make sure your wardrobe contains the essentials.

For women, a nice pair of flats, a comfortable pair of heels, a little black dress, a well fitting pair of jeans, a great athletic shoe… and build from there. Jewelry is the best way to add style and class to any outfit. Find versatile pieces that can be worn with casual outfits as well as pieces that can be worn with more formal attire. A hat for days when your hair just won’t cooperate, a stylish jacket, a Pashmina or wrap-style shawl and a stylish umbrella complete your style arsenal. For men… jeans, a nice tailored suit, a white dress shirt, and a nice pair of dress shoes, always polished, will get you started.

5— Organize, Organize, Organize.

Everything should be visible and easily accessible. Shoe organizers and jewelry organizers can really help, but if it’s not in the budget, find clear, plastic bins to store items in. Jewelry can be stored in clear zip lock bags. You can arrange things by color, occasion etc. Find whatever system works for you and commit to it.

6— Maintain your ideal body weight.

You don’t have to be stick thin or always on a diet. Find a comfortable spot for you and maintain it by exercising regularly. When you are fit (no matter your size), you look better in your clothes. And nothing is more frustrating than having to get dressed for an occasion in a rush and finding that nothing fits because you’ve gained weight and didn’t realize it. Figure out your ideal weight, buy a scale and stay on top of your “plusses” and “minuses”.

True confidence comes from within and ideally that’s where the work should start, but looking your best is definitely part of the work of becoming your best You! Incorporate these tips for not only a stress free start to your day, but an overall boost in your confidence that will make sure you’re ready for any opportunity that comes your way.

To Your Journey,


Tonya Lampley is a fiction author and Certified Life Coach. She writes about life, love and the journey and blogs on topics for living a successful life. Her debut novel was titled A Taste of Love and was a NIEA finalist. Her second book is titled Indiscretion and her third book is titled Dirty. All books are available on Amazon. For more information about Tonya and her works please visit www.TonyaLampley.com.