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Another celebrity posted a nude picture of herself on the internet. No judgment here…we are spirits on a journey and we get to choose whatever we need for our continual growth. I can’t say what that looks like for her, but I can speak to a larger, more pervasive issue that affects us all.

As human beings, we all desire significance. We want to be known for something; we want to feel that we matter and that our lives have meaning. It’s the driving force behind most people’s accomplishments. When it’s done from a healthy and whole perspective—when we are contributing to society in a positive way or making our mark on the world in a way that benefits others, for example— not only does the individual person benefit, but society benefits as well. All is good.

But when it’s broken, as it is for many of us, we become possessed by our egos. The ego begins to crave attention, desperately wanting to be acknowledged, even lauded in some cases, not because it understands that each human being is a part of the great whole and has built in significance just by virtue of their birth, no, it seeks significance because it fears being insignificant. And there’s a big difference. To know your value intrinsically, versus letting it be determined by some external circumstance are two totally different things altogether. When it’s internally known, you move through the world with peace and in great love. You can handle the ups and downs of life because you know that your Creator loves you beyond measure and that you don’t need anything in order to be at peace. Happiness is available to you in each and every moment. Conversely, when the ego is in control, a person’s worth becomes based on things that are external. Happiness becomes elusive and the person requires antics and stunts to feel worthy or acceptable. Things like nudity, shock value, defaming others, temper tantrums…anything that screams, “Hey…look at me,” becomes the menu from which the ego feeds because it has yet to discover and accept its own value and worth, creating for the individual, a false self.

Anytime our worth and value depends on something outside of us, we are standing on shaky ground. We become like the Wizard in Oz. Anything can come along and strip away the facade—a changing trend, loss of a job, a bankruptcy, aging, weight gain. It is only in being rooted in the firm foundation of who we truly are, that we find peace, joy and love; that we find stability. No matter the shift in life’s landscape.

All we have to do is stand fast in our knowing. Knowing that we matter, knowing that there is purpose for our existence, knowing that we are loved. And knowing that in looking anywhere else to feel grand or find our significance, eventually we will come up short. It is the Source of All Things and the extension of that great love that gives us our significance. Accept yourself as you are, fully and completely and know there is absolutely nothing to prove.

To Your Journey,


Tonya Lampley is a fiction author and Certified Life Coach. She writes about life, love and the journey and blogs on topics for living a successful life. Her debut novel was titled A Taste of Love and was a NIEA finalist. Her second book is titled Indiscretion and her third book is titled Dirty. All books are available on Amazon. For more information about Tonya and her works please visit www.TonyaLampley.com.