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I find many of these shows disheartening. The fighting, airing of dirty laundry, damaged relationships. The networks and TV producers are getting rich off the backs of people, particularly minorities and women on these shows. It’s sexism at it’s finest and one could make a case for racism and classism as well, since the shows’ characters are largely minority and sometimes the more vulnerable in society. Anything that degrades, devalues or disrespects human life is wrong…whether it’s police brutality, sex slavery, giving contaminated drinking water to poor communities, or treating human beings as lab rats. Exploitation is wrong. Period. And profiting from it is even worse.

And I know, some will say, the “stars” aren’t being forced to participate and they get paid…and I agree with all of that. But, I don’t think it’s that simple. When jobs are scarce (and they are in the U.S right now) and when you live in a society where fame is the “drug” of choice, it’s harder to make those decisions. It’s harder to see something for what it really is, especially when you need to survive or put food on the table for your family.

Personally, I choose not to watch the reality shows that are exploitive in nature. They do nothing to remind us of our own potential…nothing to teach us of our own purpose and value. We live in a society of choice and I respect the rights of others to choose for themselves. I believe life is to be enjoyed and TV can be a contributor to that enjoyment, and these shows are nothing if they aren’t entertaining. But, I encourage you to not watch these shows unconsciously. Think about what they do to the characters, the messages they send to other young women and men about the nature of life and who they are as human beings and what’s possible for their own futures. The next time you’re watching one of these shows and you chuckle, think about the fact that someone’s relationship, reputation or possibly even their life is being destroyed. And that’s not funny.

To Your Journey,


Tonya Lampley is a fiction author and Certified Life Coach. She writes about life, love and the journey and blogs on topics for living a successful life. Her debut novel was titled A Taste of Love and was a 2012 NIEA finalist. Her second book is titled Indiscretion and her third book is titled Dirty. All books are available on Amazon. For more information about Tonya and her works please visit www.TonyaLampley.com.