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Okay so it’s back to beauty for me. I did a similar blog on this a little while ago. It touched my heart again, so I figured I’d talk about it. I was watching a documentary on OWN about light skinned vs. dark skinned African Americans and the stigma that dark skin carries. My heart was broken as I watched little girls say that they felt light skin girls were pretty and since they were dark, they were not. Older women also expressed that they had carried the “stigma” of dark skin all their lives. You could see the pain on their faces, the tears in their eyes. I don’t think it’s just limited to African Americans and skin color. It is human nature to want to single out another group and make them inferior. It’s a character flaw, something the ego does to make us feel better about ourselves and if we’re not evolved and conscious, we fall prey to it as well. Whether it’s democrats vs. republicans, rich vs. poor, racism or gender wars, a group will always be singled out and labeled inferior.

The media plays a big role in shaping our views of what’s “good.” If only a certain type of person is shown on television or in print ads, we believe that is what is “right.” Anything other than that is “not as right.” It’s programming. Our views can be shaped by what we are fed. I tend to be on the thinner side. In the U.S. that’s largely viewed as a good thing, but in some cultures (certain parts of Africa come to mind), I’d be alone. No one would marry me because I was thin. At the end of the day, it’s all relative; a matter of conditioning.

So what do we do? As individuals, we have the choice of valuing all of God’s creation. If he made one light and one dark, thin or thick, tall or short, who are we to question his handiwork? When he sees us, he sees the glorious beings that he made. He assigns no value or worth to physical characteristics. We do that in our human-ness. He sees glory, where we see flaws. It behooves us to understand that this body is just an encasement for our spirit…colorless, boundless. The appearance of the encasement is far less important, if it’s important at all. We must see ourselves the way God sees us and teach children to do the same. We can’t let others dictate our worth and value, we must know who we are–God’s children, perfectly created and invited to be here just like everyone else. No one is better, no one is worse. We join together to become a beautiful work of art, reflecting the very nature of God.

To Your Journey,


Tonya Lampley is a fiction author. She writes about life, love and the journey. Her debut novel was titled A Taste of Love and was a 2012 NIEA finalist. Her second book is titled Indiscretion and will be released August 2013. For more information about Tonya and her works please visit http://www.TonyaLampley.com.