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How do you define beauty?

We live in a time where popular culture tells us what beauty is. Throughout the day we see dozens, if not hundreds of images of people who are supposed to be hip, hot and happenin.’ Typically the same kinds of ads run…beautiful people, mainstream, young of course, perfect teeth, bodies, hair etc.

Media is a very powerful tool. It shapes our perception of reality and if we’re not careful, we can allow it to tell us who we are. We live under immense pressure, especially women, to be what society defines as beautiful. Eating disorders, plastic surgery and the fear of aging run rampant in our current society. Artificial hair, nails, boobs—we’ve come to idolize those things; not seeing them for the masks they are. I have nothing against makeup or even a little plastic surgery, if that’s your thing—I think we have a responsibility to be our best in every area of our lives, including our appearance. My concern is…do we ever stop and think for ourselves, what real beauty is?  Have we forgotten the true nature of our being? Could our children grow up, not valuing themselves because they don’t look like the people on T.V or the popular kids at their school, who always do?

What about being physically beautiful? Does it really matter? To the true self, it doesn’t. The magnificent, glorious, self-accepting, created in the image of God, cares not of your voluptuous bosom or your washboard flat chest. What it cares about is you loving and accepting yourself fully and completely for who you are and allowing your life to emanate from that place.

Here’s my definition of real beauty…a person who understands who they are completely; knows their value and worth, makes love their highest priority, honors and respects all life, lends a helping hand, edifies others, loves God and lives in spirit. Living life as all that we are is what makes us beautiful. That kind of radiance doesn’t need a lot of artificial adornments—it’s a light that shines on its own—a true sight to behold.

To Your Journey,


Tonya Lampley is a Cincinnati based fiction author. Her debut novel is titled A Taste of Love and is available at Barnes and Noble, Joseph Beth Booksellers and Amazon.com. To learn more about Tonya and her works, please visit www.TonyaLampley.com.